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by
Linda Hill
They deny something ever happened.
Projection: This is the act of one person putting uncomfortable feelings or accountability onto someone else. A narcissist won’t take responsibility for their actions and will go out of their way to make someone else take onus for their bad doings in very damaging and cruel ways.
Deflection: Anyone who has tried winning an argument with a narcissist is well-versed in this strategy. This is the act of avoiding an issue or problem by talking around it until the initial subject matter is lost or forgotten.
Distortion: This is a tactic where the narcissist twists the truth around in such a way, you actually doubt yourself, even though the facts were clear in your mind before confronting the narcissist. They are a master of deceit and use a variety of methods to distort your reality:
They’re always trying to prove themselves as being right.
They form a conclusion based on one incident and generalize it to everything else.
They jump to conclusions based on what they think rather than on facts.
They’ll either magnify the importance of specific details, or minimize or completely disregard them.
They often put unrealistic obligations on others using the ‘should’ statements.
They play the victim, even when the subject matter has little to do with them.
They play the emotional card, overshadowing any sense of logical thinking.
Not only do they expect others to change to meet their needs, they also believe they’re in control of themselves and everyone/everything around them.
Triangulation: This is when the narcissist recruits another person to side with them to support their endeavors in harming the victim.
Splitting: This is a form of black-and-white thinking with no other options.
Negging: This is a form of emotional manipulation where the person gives backhanded compliments to elicit self-doubt and slowly tear away at the receiver’s self-esteem.
