You feel inadequate: You feel like you are never "good enough." You try to live up to the expectations and demands of others, even if they are unreasonable.
Work a full time job. Do all the cooking. All the cleaning. Pay all the bills. Drop off & pick up the kid. All the appointments. All the presents are my responsibility. All the adulting is my responsibility. All he would do is drive home as slow as possible & then clean his truck to avoid the kid & I… maybe stop at the bar to “see his dad”.