This Is How We Do It: A Pep Talk

by Kevin Hart

Energy flows where attention goes, and some of that attention is just emboldening the negative forces in the world. There are many reasons for this, but one is because people who can’t get positive attention often opt for negative attention, rather than getting no attention at all.

celebrate the positive.

I’m always building on the past, growing, and moving forward.

What am I building? What is the endgame? And when I get to the endgame, is it really the end? When I die, what will other people talk about? What will the conversation be like? What is the legacy I’m leaving for my children?

I’ll be damned if I can’t put a great display of life together while I’m here.

loving who you are today.

How can you love who you are if you don't know who you are?

What path are you on now? Who chose that path? Where is it ultimately leading if you don’t change anything? Whose approval are you seeking? How far will you go off your path to get it? What decisions are you making out of fear? What decisions are you making out of joy? If you are marching to the beat of a drum, who or what is beating out the tempo?

Nobody is in charge of you but you.

Success, they say, is where preparation meets opportunity. And there are two kinds of preparation: One is dedication to your personal craft, to the specific skill set you need to reach your goal. The other is to prepare your life and your mind to find, embrace, and receive that success.

journey further into the unknown and take on bigger risks.

it’s easy to talk shit.

As easy as it is yo talk poorly of others, its just as hard to say it to their face. They can talk about anything and everything, until it come to face to face, then they lose their voice suddenly.. Isn't that ironic?

You have to risk negativity, risk banishment, risk hatred to have a life worth living.

how you feel about yourself and your direction in life, shapes everything that you do.

Negativity (when it’s not processed) is completely unproductive.

But positivity is creative. It’s generative. It’s beautiful. It’s inspiring. Positivity uplifts and encourages. Positivity creates options and possibility. Positivity is movement. Positivity makes room for hope. Positivity is freedom.

Sometimes life is hard.

When shit inevitably happens: it is what it is. You are at peace with the nature of this new reality.

Make the best of it.

Sometimes we’re bitching and complaining about shit we can’t fucking change. Make the best of those moments. Complete those moments. And after completing them, move on rather than sitting there and letting it fuck up your day. That’s my suggestion. Be like water: allow, adapt, and keep moving.

To be reliable means having an impeccable relationship with your time and obligations. When you tell someone you’ll do something or you’ll be somewhere, you follow through and back it up with action. Making empty promises and casually throwing out a yes to appease people breeds weakness and flakiness.

You have to have a sharp awareness of your schedule and commitments because you have to know what you can and can’t do. In order to deliver on things and show up places, you have to control the amount of things you take on.

You have to have the courage and self-respect to be able to say no.

Determination fuels everything. It’s going to keep you doing the hard work and choosing the path to success. It’s going to keep you consistent when you don’t feel like being consistent. It’s going to push you through and around the obstacles when you feel like there’s no way forward.

If you choose a life of work, impact, and success, it will be an unending gauntlet of tests and trials.

Determination is about the appreciation of your individual journey.

You have to take responsibility for your bullshit.

Leaders take ownership. Champions take ownership. People are inspired to follow other people who take ownership. It earns respect. Ownership shows strength and humanity.

Feeling good, and helping those around you feel good, is one of the quickest ways to bring happiness and harmony to your life.

You can’t control whether people like you, and you sure as hell don’t want to worry about it.

The world is constantly trying to influence you and tell you what’s important, what you want, what you need, who you are, and what you can and can’t do.

you can’t make the hard decisions in life if you don’t have perspective on the bigger picture of where you’re going to help guide your thinking.

Nobody can define your prize but you.

Without patience, you also won’t be able to withstand the amount of time it’s really going to take to realize your vision. Nothing will happen overnight. Even if it looks like it does for other people, it almost always took years of work for someone to reach that moment or put themselves in a position for something to happen.

refuse to allow mediocrity.

Be extraordinary. Stand out if the crowd. Do not be afraid to be your true self, in the end you woyld only end up disappointing yourself if you choose to be someone you are not.