This Is How We Do It: A Pep Talk

by Kevin Hart

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.

We are going to decide to celebrate the positive.

there is no such thing as being comfortable.

I truly want you to understand that success is earned. It’s not given. I am driven by the same thing I want you to be driven by: big questions. If your questions are big enough and positive enough, you can transcend the ordinary.

What is the legacy I’m leaving for my children? I can’t answer those questions definitively. No one can. But I can live out of them.

Whether you want to change the world or just your world, it’s the same thing.

also failed and didn’t do some things. So I went back, and I redid them. And whatever people may say, I appreciate my individual journey.

“I’m proud of myself.” Really feel a deep respect and admiration for your grind, your will, your effort, your blood, sweat, and tears. Because all those things are you. And this is where we are starting: loving who you are today.

What decisions are you making out of fear? What decisions are you making out of joy? If you are marching to the beat of a drum, who or what is beating out the tempo?

The only path that leads to the ultimate you—because beyond goals,

that’s really what we’re talking about—is the path you choose yourself. Nobody is ...

All the information you need to take care of yourself in the best possible way is out there. It’s up to us as people to choose to either ignore it or dump our bullshit and use it.

So, are you a “wake up at 5:00” person, a “wake up at 10:00” person, or a “don’t even get up” person? Here’s some more good news: it doesn’t matter. The correct answer is whichever you choose to be. It’s your path. Your drum. Your beat. Just get to steppin’.

Success, they say, is where preparation meets opportunity. And there are two kinds of preparation: One is dedication to your personal craft, to the specific skill set you need to reach your goal. The other is to prepare your life and your mind to find, embrace, and receive that success.

You have to risk negativity, risk banishment, risk hatred to have a life worth living.

So if you want to make an impact, you will have to deal with negativity and people exposing the worst things about you.

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Positive mindset is so key because when you have it, it makes you completely free. It means you have somehow figured out a way to think about the bright side, no matter what. You don’t let yourself get stuck walking in circles, dwelling on the negative. You keep your head up and keep moving forward.

Negativity (when it’s not processed) is completely unproductive. It does nothing for you.

This guy Napoleon Hill had a beautiful spin on the moments when things don’t work out the way you planned and unexpected hardship falls on you. Instead of coming from a negative place and looking at those moments as a “failure,” he called them “temporary defeats.”