8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

by Jay Shetty

Loneliness makes us rush into relationships; it keeps us in the wrong relationships; and it urges us to accept less than we deserve.

How you handle your differences is more important than finding your similarities.

when you’re dealing with crocodiles, you should leave your heart at home. You can’t always be vulnerable. Sometimes it will be used against you.

We think of love as reciprocal, but sannyasis love without reciprocation. We must hold on to our loving hearts, the essence of who we are, even in a workplace full of crocodiles. We try to be compassionate to those who have hurt us. We give the best energy we can under the circumstances and get on with our lives. At the same time, we make sure that we ourselves are not the crocodile because what we become at work bleeds into who we are at home. If you can’t be the sannyasi you want to be at work, make sure that you strive to give love in your personal life.

We serve in goodness when we don’t want recognition or an outcome—we just want to show pure love.

You can seek love your whole life and never find it, or you can give love your whole life and experience joy.

“It’s only one fish to you,” my teacher said, “But to that fish, it is everything.”