8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

by Jay Shetty

I know plenty of people who manage to be friends with their exes, but I think it’s complicated. It can make subsequent partners feel insecure or give your ex false hope of getting back together.

It’s fine to ask questions so that you understand their reasoning better, but don’t pressure them to stay in the relationship. You don’t want to stay with someone who has already checked out.

Let yourself feel every emotion. You can’t heal until you feel. Walking away from something doesn’t reduce it. If you don’t give an emotion the attention it deserves, it amplifies. In order to truly recognize these emotions, you must articulate them, look for patterns, and explain them to yourself.

Let’s examine the recent past of your relationship to gain some insights that will prepare you for future relationships. Reflect on what you gained Reflect on what you lost Reflect on your own shortcomings Ask yourself: What did I learn about myself in this relationship?

karuna, compassion for all living entities.

Love means noticing that everyone is worthy of love and treating them with the respect and dignity their humanity automatically makes them deserve.

if you love your kids, you should want to better their world and the world at large.

If we have the capacity and opportunity to look beyond our own needs, then we should do so.

“According to the theory, the tightest circle has just five people—loved ones. That’s followed by successive layers of 15 (good friends), 50 (friends), 150 (meaningful contacts), 500 (acquaintances) and 1500 (people you can recognize). People migrate in and out of these layers, but the idea is that space has to be carved out for any new entrants.”