8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

by Jay Shetty

We acquire skills like compassion, empathy, and patience (Rule 1). This prepares us to share love because we’ll need these qualities when we love someone else. We will also examine our past relationships to avoid making the same mistakes in relationships going forward (Rule 2).

Physical trust is when you feel safe and cared for in their presence. They want to be with you, they’re present and attentive, and being around them feels good. Mental trust is when you trust their mind, their ideas, their thoughtfulness. You may not agree with every decision they make, but you trust the way they make decisions. Emotional trust is when you trust their values and who they are as a human. Do they treat you well? Are they supportive? Do you trust how they behave not just with you but with the other people in their life, from close friends to a waiter?

seeing the person you love doing what they love. Furthermore,

The less contact you have with your ex, the faster the hole they’ve left will close up.

But it was never that person’s job to make you happy. That was and is your job.