Shame is a feeling of perpetual regret, and it holds us hostage to fruitless wishes of undoing. Only when we really get to know our hauntings can we release shame and enact change. We need to move from a place of possibility instead of punishment. We need to believe that we deserve better and can do better. Though we were not deserving of our hurt, we are deserving of transformative continuance. Our hauntings teach us that although we may be incapable of reversal, we are capable of infinite transformation.
