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When we quit trying to do the impossible, we’re allowed to do the possible.
expecting healthy behavior from unhealthy people is futile.
“Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.”
Forgiving and forgetting feed our denial system. We need to think about, remember, understand, and make good decisions about what we are forgiving, what can be forgotten, and what is still a problem. And forgiving someone doesn’t mean we have to let that person keep hurting us. An alcoholic doesn’t need forgiveness; they need treatment.
We need to be gentle, loving, and forgiving with ourselves before
we can expect to forgive others.
Forgiveness is closely tied to the acceptance or grief process. We cannot forgive someone for doing something if we haven’t fully accepted what this person has done.
Forgiveness comes in time—its own time—if we’re striving to take care of ourselves.
If we’re taking care of us, we will understand whom to forgive and when it’s time to do that.
As codependents, we need to learn to play and to enjoy ourselves.
We can learn to relax and enjoy the things we do daily, not just the recreational activities.
We need to set limits on what we do to and for people. We need to set limits on what we will allow people to do to and for us.
We don’t set boundaries to control other people. Boundaries are about taking responsibility for ourselves.
“I’ve learned that my life is a journey through increasingly challenging events, all of which I need to surrender to,” Joseph Teralis Arison
Anxiety and trauma take us out of our bodies; meditation brings us back home—to our highest selves.
Get comfortable with saying, “I don’t know.”
Much personal power comes when we surrender to uncertainty.
If we’re vibrating with anxiety and fear, treat the anxiety first. Then move forward. It works better.
trauma drama.
Strive to speak and act from a place of peace.
Let your yes mean yes and your...
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Make choices that won’t create more problems—and more anxiety and stress—in the future.
