Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

by Melody Beattie

In my group, I saw people who felt responsible for the entire world, but they refused to take responsibility for leading and living their own lives.

If we cannot solve a problem and we have done what we can, we learn to live with, or in spite of, that problem.

We don’t have to take other people’s behaviors as reflections of our self-worth.

“Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” Make sure our expectations are realistic.

You can spoil your fun, your day, your life—that’s your business—but I won’t let you spoil my fun, my day, or my life.

Remember, mean what you say, say what you mean, but don’t be mean.