Codependent behaviors or habits are self-destructive. We frequently react to people who are destroying themselves; we react by learning to destroy ourselves. These habits can lead us into, or keep us in, destructive relationships—relationships that don’t work. These behaviors can sabotage relationships that may otherwise have worked. These behaviors can prevent you from finding peace and happiness with the most important person in your life—yourself. These behaviors belong to none other than ourselves. These are our problems.