The anger sometimes explodes like a bomb, but it’s not over. The other person says, “How dare you become angry with me? I’ll get angry with you, but not the other way around.” The codependent says, “After all I’ve done for you, I’ll get angry whenever I please.” But silently, we wonder: Maybe they’re right. How dare I get angry. There must be something wrong with me for feeling this way. We deal another blow to our self-worth with a little guilt tacked on. Plus, the anger is still there. The problems don’t get resolved; the anger festers and boils.
