Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

by Melody Beattie

A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect them and who is obsessed with controlling that other person’s behavior.

We don’t have to take other people’s behaviors as reflections of our self-worth.

at the heart of most rescues is a demon: low self-worth. We rescue because we don’t feel good about ourselves.

The surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other people’s business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs.

Maybe we’ve been so wrapped up in other people that we’ve forgotten how to live and enjoy our lives.

“Each time you learn to act as if you are valuable, not desperate, it gets easier to repeat that new behavior in the future,”

Each person’s feelings are their own. Nobody makes anyone feel;