We don’t have to punish ourselves by feeling guilty. If we have real guilt, there are constructive ways to deal with it. First, we need to see and accept the guilt. We need to be clear about whether we violated our own moral code. We need to accept, acknowledge, and then change. Do the work recommended by the Fourth and Fifth Steps (see chapter 18). Making amends can do wonders for relieving and resolving the heavy load of guilt.
