(After we divorced, I learned that he had never ended his relationship with the lover he’d had before we married. She lived a mile from us.) How can you confront someone when they so effectively and wholeheartedly deny your claims and you have no proof? The gaslighting was enough to make me go crazy. I had to let go. I didn’t want all this angst; I didn’t want a broken family. I didn’t want to be codependent. I hated being codependent.
