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February 3 - February 4, 2025
We’ve put the burden of pregnancy prevention on the person who is fertile for 24 hours a month, instead of the person who is fertile 24 hours a day, every day of their life.
We treat ejaculation as something that happens at random, that is unintentional, that is impossible to anticipate or predict. And we treat ovulation like it can be pinpointed well in advance and easily predicted.
Ovulation is involuntary. Ejaculation is voluntary.
The list of side effects for the Pill/Patch/Ring/Shot is long and serious, including depression, fatigue, headache, insomnia, mood swings, nausea, breast pain, vomiting, weight gain, acne, bloating, blood clots, heart attack, high blood
pressure, liver cancer, and stroke. Also, depending on where a woman is in her menstrual cycle, it can take two to seven days before the effectiveness even kicks in. So you can’t fill a prescription and be instantly protected.
Consider the Johnson & Johnson COVID-19 vaccine, which was paused for ten days when a risk of blood clots was discovered. Six people out of the seven million who had received the Johnson & Johnson vaccine developed serious blood clots. One of them died. At the time, it was scary to read the headlines, though the risk of blood clot from the Johnson & Johnson vaccine is less than one in a million. In contrast, the common forms of women’s birth control come with a much higher risk of blood clots—oral contraceptives triple the risk of blood clots.
Men, consider what your girlfriend/wife/partner is doing for you. She’s fertile 3 percent of the time and addressing her fertility 100 percent of the time, whether she has sex or not.
What condoms don’t have is a list of side effects. They don’t cause depression, mood swings, blood clots, liver failure, weight gain, acne, strokes, or anything else on the list of side effects for hormonal birth control.
If women are expected to learn how to use their birth control correctly, the same can be expected of men.
With tubal ligation you need to make an actual hole in the abdomen, which by surgical standards is a minor surgery, but it’s still much more major than a vasectomy. I don’t see any reason why a tubal ligation would be or should be preferred over a vasectomy.
there has never been a documented death from a vasectomy. However, many women have died from anesthetic or surgical complications from a tubal ligation.
It’s not just that it’s riskier than a vasectomy. Tubal ligations are routinely denied to women who are under thirty-five or who don’t have kids.
A surprising number of people, as I discovered while trying to determine if my own acute suffering post IUD-insertion was abnormal, describe it as the worst pain they’ve experienced in their life. The worst of it is blinding and minutes long, and then about 75 percent of that pain goes on for hours. And that’s if nothing goes wrong, like the device jams, and the doctor has to try again a second time.
According to conventional portrayals of the sex act, it’s not over until the man ejaculates, and once he ejaculates, it’s over. We’re focused on the man’s experience, not the woman’s.
When men choose to have condom-less sex, they are putting a woman’s body, health, social status, job, economic status, relationships, and even her life, at risk in order to experience a few minutes of slightly more pleasure.
Why are we talking about unwanted pregnancies? Because 99 percent of abortions are the direct result of unwanted pregnancy. And we need to understand very clearly that women enjoying sex does not cause unwanted pregnancies and abortion. What causes unwanted pregnancies and abortion? Men enjoying sex and having irresponsible ejaculations.
man can’t impregnate a woman without feeling pleasure.
All unwanted pregnancies are caused by irresponsible ejaculations. Or, in simpler terms: Men cause all unwanted pregnancies.
Men assume women will do all the work of pregnancy prevention, that a woman will take responsibility for her own body and for the man’s body, and women assume women will do it, too.
A woman having an orgasm while a man penetrates her risks nothing and hurts no one. A man having an orgasm while he penetrates a woman risks everything—he risks her body, her health, her income, her relationships, her social status, even her life, and he also risks creating another human being.
Pregnancy and childbirth can change the skeletal structure of a body. The vagina can literally fall out after having a baby—it’s called pelvic organ prolapse.
The United States, one of the richest countries in the world, is ranked #56 in maternal mortality—that’s dead last among industrialized countries.
The leading cause of death for pregnant women in the United States is homicide, usually at the hands of an intimate partner.
in the United States, the mortality rate for pregnancy is 17.4 per 100,000 people. The on-duty murder rate for police officers is 13.5 per 100,000 people.
The existential and emotional burden of being a parent is unfathomable.
Adoption
should not be looked at as an easy fix for an unwanted pregnancy.
Call politicians out for hypocrisy, for using abortion as a political tool.
