When masturbating, 95 percent of women orgasm. In first-time hookups with other women, they orgasm 64 percent of the time. But in first-time hookups with men, they orgasm only 7 percent of the time. So we know that when we ignore the experience of women’s pleasure during sex, the problem isn’t women’s ability to orgasm. It’s our cultural approach toward heterosexual sex and our focus on men’s pleasure over everything else.