Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

by Gabrielle Stanley Blair

A woman’s consent to sex does not force a man to ejaculate in her vagina. Even if the woman says, “Pretty please have sex with me without a condom. I want you to ejaculate inside me,” the words don’t force the man to ejaculate inside her without a condom. He still has to choose. Ultimately only the man decides where his sperm ends up. Only he can choose what to do with his sperm and where it goes. A woman telling a man he doesn’t have to wear a condom doesn’t force that man to have sex with her without a condom. He has the right of refusal. If he chooses to have sex without a condom, then he is choosing to risk causing an unwanted pregnancy. No matter what a woman “lets” a man do, she can’t (legally) make a man ejaculate inside of her. When he does, that’s 100 percent his doing. We know this is true because if she “let” him put his penis in a waffle iron, he wouldn’t. If someone tells you to do an irresponsible thing, and you choose to do that irresponsible thing, that’s on you.