felt that the fourth member of the family rowed away from our island to work, and then rowed back to us, but we three lived there. That was daily life. I’m careful to say “I felt,” because there is no one truth to be told in this regard. It feels invasive to even consider what it might have felt like to be the one in the boat, oars in both hands. To go away and come back, again and again, and to miss so much living. It is a kind of estrangement, maybe, to be the one who works outside of the home. Estrangement as in “to be made strange,” to feel apart from.
