It’s because you have this idealised version of yourself in your head that you’re so obsessed with your looks. You’ve made that idealised version very specific and unattainable. Which is why you might think things like, I’m a failure if I weigh over eight stone! The only thing to do here is to keep trying different things, little by little, trying to understand how much change is comfortable for you and what it is you really want. Once you understand what you like and how to reduce your anxiety, you’ll feel satisfaction. You’ll be able to accept or reject what others say about you.
