I’m used to who I am now is the greatest, most accessible phrasing of self-acceptance I’ve heard yet. To say to myself: OK. I have this eating disorder history, brain stuff, family stuff, trauma stuff. (Kaye told me that many anorexics exhibit a higher-than-average sensitivity to trauma, but also, maybe, #allofus?) I move through a world that has a lot of fucked-up values and harmful attitudes about women’s bodies, and that treats different kinds of bodies in distinct and unequal ways. That’s a summit I’m not able to get to on my own. If I don’t feel as steady and recovered as I’d like to, I
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