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Changed behavior was the only apology I was accepting, now, from myself or anyone else.
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“That would sound like music to my ears if I didn’t have a two-drink alcohol tolerance and preferred clubs over lounges. There won’t be a light show, bottle show, insane entry prices, or unlimited shots. I can’t hang. Maybe I’m getting old.” “Lies. Because I can’t hang either, and I’m not old. We’re the same age. That just isn’t our thing. Never has been, or at least since I’ve known you. If it’s chill, we want in. That’s it. That’s all.” “The lounge life is my type of life,” I concluded.
He only gave me enough money to pay bills, and he knew how much each of them cost. Whenever anything more was needed in our home, he made me use his debit card. In a full year, I’d only been able to save four hundred dollars and that was not from his pockets. It was from birthday gifts that I’d returned and small amounts of cash that fell from birthday cards for the girls’ birthdays. Technically, not even that money was mine. It was theirs.
“When you’re accustomed to being controlled by material possessions and monetary donations, you tend to stray away from them,” she explained.
My chest tightened as I closed my eyes to regain my composure. She’s fragile. What the fuck are you doing, nigga? I chastised myself.
“I’m not ready,” she responded, tightening my chest with each word she spoke. “I’m not ready for you. I’m still trying to find me.”
When my water broke, I drove myself to the hospital and called Lyric while I was on the way. She boarded the first flight she could find and made it to my hospital room an hour before I pushed Emorey out. Dewayne didn’t return to the hospital until it was time for me to be discharged. He hardly even gave Emorey a second look and didn’t keep Essence during my hospital stay – neither did Pam.
more to me than you know right now. I just left a man who made it easy for me to be a stay-at-home mom and not have to work, but not working kept me tied down to him for so long. I just got my freedom and it includes being financially stable, without a man’s help.”
“Okay, because that doesn’t even sound like Luca. He’s brutally honest, but not mean. Not toward the people he cares about, at least. I can’t speak for the rest of Channing.”
“He did,” I told her. “Imagine me offering you the world but you’d rather have crumbs because another bird has access. You really not ready. That’s what he said to me.”
The Eisenbergs are no strangers to money. They’ve been the richest on the block since I can remember. The only reason they’re still in Channing is because they love to be surrounded by Black folk. They have long, old money. The kind the hairy white men have and hate to see Black people with. That’s whose level they’re on. They stick around us common folk because it’s us who they love and relate to most. Liam, their father, ask about him one day.”
No one did and the same goes for his sons. No one knows what they do, yet everyone knows what they do.”
“Your ex ain’t an Eisenberg and the nigga sure isn’t Luca. Don’t even put the two in the same sentence.
“It wasn’t intentional. I was only stopping for food, and she so worked at Baisleigh’s House.” “But he’s been checking for her since she rode to pick him up with Lyric on Monday. If you gone tell it, then tell it all, Luca. Ain’t been home forty-eight hours and already in love.” “I’m not in love,” I confessed. “Then why have you been looking at this little girl like she’s the daughter you didn’t know you’d conceived before you went in and this is y’all first time meeting?”
I refuse to let a man pay all of my bills because then I feel indebted to them and that is what doesn’t allow me to rest… at all. I always feel like I should be doing something to show my appreciation. Cleaning the kitchen, mopping the floors, dusting the ceiling fans… anything but sitting on my ass. For the first time, I can sit on my ass if that’s what I want to do. I don’t want that to stop.”
“No matter what it is, I want to keep a job. I never want to be jobless. Having a job actually gives me the small break I need from my children on a daily basis. I’d much rather it be my own business that claims my time instead of someone’s clock, but that will come in due time. I have to stay employed. I can never and won’t ever depend on a man for everything anymore. He cannot be the sole breadwinner in the house.”
walk on. He must give me the same love that I give him. When I’m in love, I’m limitless. I’ll always go above and beyond. I want that reciprocated.”
“Physical touch and quality time. Those are two of my love languages. I’m still trying to determine whether reassurance is the third.”
“What about my desires? Because if they’re not met at all while yours are being met, then this simply turns into exactly what you just got out of. The only difference is, you’re not the one worshipping without reciprocation. It’ll be me. And instead of you taking the pain, you’ll be the one dishing it. You’ll always get the long end of the stick and what do I get?”
“But, it’s human. It’s an honest response to the trauma you’ve faced
“I’m a provider. I understand you want to keep your job, but I also want you to understand that you won’t have to spend a red cent from now on. Your expenses are now mine. This isn’t a control method, Ever. Not for me. My father would kill me if I did things any differently. And you don’t owe me for shit.”
“Every other Wednesday, I’ll have the laundry service I used to use come get you and the girls’ things and have
them back by Thursday afternoon. Ever, if you don’t want to, I don’t want you to ever have to fold another piece. If you prefer being cooked for instead of the stress of cooking, we can hire a chef. With us living in separate places, let’s make it a habit to eat dinner together every evening.” “Okay.”
“I’m ready,” she proclaimed. “Ready for what, Ever?” I wanted more details. “For whatever your heart desires for me that don’t directly disregard
my boundaries or at least take them into consideration.”

