It is not necessarily that life could have been different that is the problem, but that we resist finding the beauty in how it inevitably has gone. Resenting or fighting against what has happened to you or because of you only brings additional misery into the now, exasperating the problem and creating more to resent and resist. Like pouring the gasoline of regret onto a fire of unchangeable circumstances, we only unnecessarily intensify the flames. The true challenge and task of life, for Nietzsche, is to fall in love with what you are actually experiencing right now, as it is, in all the ways
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