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most women are left frustrated with “incomplete sentences” in the face of their partners’ prematurely “dangling participles.”
“The man must keep the situation in control and benefit from the communion without undue haste.”
The clitoris has over eighteen parts, both visible and hidden, that participate in the production of pleasure.
But they reached orgasm 81 percent of the time during oral sex. As Dr. Alex Comfort wrote of cunnilingus in The New Joy of Sex, “One can give the woman dozens of orgasms in this way and she may still want to go on from there.” 4.
But cunnilingus is a repast in and of itself, and there are hundreds, if not thousands, of unique ways to partake.
have concluded that among women whose partners spent twenty-one minutes or longer on foreplay, only 7.7 percent failed to reach orgasm consistently.
“Patience shall be my song.”
When she comes first, anxiety and pressure are dispensed with; you are emboldened, empowered to pursue with gusto the gratification that awaits you—a climax that will be heightened all the more for having been postponed.
“Nerves are like wolves or birds: if one starts crying, there goes the neighborhood.” So stop thinking of the clitoris as a little bump, and start thinking of it as a complex network, a pleasure dome, the Xanadu at the heart of female sexuality.
the inner two thirds of the vagina are substantially less sensitive than the outer third.
The superiority of the clitoris to the vagina in stimulating the process of female sexual response is enough to throw many a guy into a tailspin and make him question the very meaning of life, or at least the meaning of his penis.
the G-spot may be nothing more than the back end of the clitoris.”
we can simplify matters by adopting “Occam’s razor,” the principle coined by the medieval philosopher William of Occam that lies at the root of all scientific modeling and theory building: Entia non sunt multiplicanda necessitatem. Translation: “One should not make more assumptions than are absolutely necessary.”
The tongue is far better used to produce orgasms than to waste time naming them.
When using his tongue, a man doesn’t have to worry about growing fatigued, nor does he need fret over premature ejaculation or impotence. He can relax and enjoy the act of giving.
“Do not overstate…a single overstatement, wherever or however it occurs, diminishes the whole.”
the author observes that although most men enjoy cunnilingus, only a small minority of men continued to perform it until the woman reached orgasm. Most men consider cunnilingus an aspect of foreplay, an appetizer to be served before the main meal of genital intercourse. But according to author Paula Kamen, “In a study of sexually knowledgeable and experienced women who use a vibrator, the most common type of stimulation that usually or always triggers an orgasm is oral sex.”
And then, as if the clitoris didn’t have enough problems, along came a psychoanalyst with a Big Cigar (and sometimes, regardless of size, a cigar is really just a cigar)…
Again we take our cue from Strunk and White: “Before beginning to compose something, gauge the nature and extent of the enterprise, and work from a suitable design…you cannot plunge in blindly…lest you miss the forest for the trees and there be no end to your labors.”
