She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)
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identified eighteen structures in the clitoral network,
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This vast erogenous landscape literally throbs with potential pleasure.
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And unlike the penis—burdened with the responsibilities of reproduction and the removal of waste—the clitoris is devoted solely to pleasure
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And period
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its convenient fit
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lol
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ways that may not strike us as inherently masculine, but ultimately allow us to be more of a man.
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Yyyeeesssss
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We are free to love with more of ourselves, with our entire self.
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born without a vagina, despite normal development of external genitals, including major and minor labia. While these women are often unable to become pregnant without surgery or intense medical therapy, they are, in fact, able to experience sexual pleasure and orgasm—because even though they may lack a vagina, they still have a fully functional clitoris.
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This painful mutilation, often referred to as female circumcision,
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“Sex provides efficiently for male orgasm, and inefficiently for female orgasm.”
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Like how women are told to give birth on their backs
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tongues. It’s not that the tongue is a replacement for the penis; if anything, it’s an addition, an enhancement—an extension.
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You become one with yourself and her.
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IMAGINE A WORLD in which a woman’s orgasm, along with the male’s, is a necessary and critical part of the reproductive process:
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Pop woukd go down by like 60%
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By Victorian times, the orgasm, which was previously accepted as a natural component of women’s sexual repertoire, was seen as unnecessary, unseemly, and perhaps even unhealthy for women.”
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Freud had a rather clear understanding of the anatomical role of the clitoris and chose instead to promote his personal ideas about female sexuality over current scientific knowledge.
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Booooo booooooo
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ballyhooed
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In both philosophy and practice, any definition of sex must, first and foremost, include a powerful element of respect.
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She knew that sex and power were inexorably linked, and she decreed that government officials and visiting dignitaries must pay homage to her imperial highness by performing cunnilingus upon her.
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Girlboss
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Etymologically, “vagina” originates from a Latin word meaning “a sheath or scabbard for a sword,”
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“A thousand kisses to your neck, your breasts, and lower down, much lower down, that little black forest I love so well.”
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Crazy
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Some anthropologists speculate that a woman’s use of lipstick stems from her desire to have the visible upper lips resemble the inner hidden lips below—a signal to the opposite sex that she is sexually ready.
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During the process of arousal, the inner lips change color, from light pink to darker hues, and swell and puff in size as they engorge with blood.
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“an infinitely greater capacity for sexual response than a man ever dreamed of.”
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Scent and Sensibility
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All this fuss and hullabaloo over hygiene; and yet, in reality, a woman’s genitals are a self-cleaning system—more sanitary than many other parts of the body, including the mouth.
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It’s been said that a woman’s genitals are as clean as a fresh carton of yogurt, and this comparison is often made because the kind of bacteria found in yogurt, lactobacilli, are also found in a woman’s vaginal secretions.
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Unprotected sex can also affect a woman’s smell, in that sperm is highly alkaline and raises the pH level of the vaginal ecosystem.
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Usually the body quickly readjusts to normal levels, especially when the sperm is familiar, as it is when two partners are committed to each other and monogamous.
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So much for the Roaring Twenties. Sounds more like the Boring Twenties.
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Save the genital kiss for last,
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I just hate thaf phrase
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bald pate of a naked vulva—what the Chinese refer to as “the White Tiger.”
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Crazy
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a woman’s upper lip is considered one of the most erogenous areas on her body because of a special nerve that connects it to the clitoris,
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One interviewee commented that she likes to play Ravel’s Boléro during sex as “it both captures and stimulates the process of arousal—the way the tension builds slowly, repetitiously…subliminally encouraging
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LOLLLLL
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“This may sound weird, but I love to listen to whale music when a guy goes down on me. I have all these bizarre underwater fantasies. Sometimes I even imagine that I’m the female whale and that I’m being called by the male whale, with his like, what, fifty-foot cock.”
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Insane #girlboss
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recommends going down on a woman while she stands on her head with her legs wrapped around your neck.
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placing a hand on her stomach,
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Run your fingers gently through her pubic hair.
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Literally No
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Never, under any circumstances, blow into a woman’s vagina as though trying to fill it with air.
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Who tf is doing this
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as long as it takes to bring her to orgasm. That said, every woman is different when it comes to her process of sexual response,
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top to bottom and left to right. Once you get the hang of it, use your index fingers to gently massage the clitoral shaft.
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And then—“rope-a-dope” her! That’s
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Lick her senseless
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“Lo-lee-ta: the tip of the tongue taking a trip of three steps down the palate to tap, at three, on the teeth.”
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an aspect of sexual response so important to female arousal that the FDA approved the Eros-CTD (Clitoral Therapy Device) for the treatment of female orgasmic disorder.
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Research has also suggested that the CTD pump might even prevent fibrosis of the clitoral arteries as women grow older.
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Perineal Pinch
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Illegal
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a quick intermission from cunnilingus and focus on other types of stimulation—assuming she’ll let you.
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kiss her mouth if she doesn’t object, but take heed: just as the average guy doesn’t always relish the idea of kissing a woman after she’s gone down on him, many women would rather not kiss a wet face that has just come up from below.
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Booooooo
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As noted in Part I, the pH level of her vulva is remarkably similar to that of wine,
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pick up a good bottle of Viognier from the Condrieu region in France; it possesses a rich perfume that’s redolent of apricot, peaches, and honey, and, when combined with the sweet nectar of her vulva, is the closest you’ll ever come to tasting ambrosia, the food of the gods.
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Period
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Raise your upper lip by making an “Elvis Presley” snarl
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