She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)

by Ian Kerner

• Make sure she’s amply aroused. Spend the time during foreplay to establish a strong foundation of sexual tension. • Before you apply the first oral kiss, make sure you’re both in positions that can be sustained comfortably throughout the entire process of sexual response. • When applying your oral techniques, focus on stimulation rather than penetration. Apply gentle, rhythmic tongue strokes. Remember: all those sensitive nerve endings that contribute to her orgasm are right there at the tip of your tongue. • Express the Three Assurances of cunnilingus persistently throughout your session: 1) Going down on her turns you on; you enjoy it as much as she does. 2) There’s no rush; she has all the time in the world; you want to savor every moment. 3) Her scent is provocative, her taste intoxicating: it all emanates from the same beautiful essence. • When using your fingers, don’t probe and prod; focus on fingertip pressure of key areas such the clitoral cluster. • Remember the virtues of the flat, still tongue. Stillness can be more effective than movement. • Be confident, not cocky. A simple, modest approach is much more effective than a flashy one. • Cunnilingus is not something you do to her; it’s something you do with her. Let her move against you to create the friction she needs. • As she approaches orgasm, maintain persistent clitoral contact. Keep her legs as close together as possible while still permitting access to her vulva. • Stay calm, measured, and focused. Don’...