She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)

by Ian Kerner

To begin with, let’s explore the potential of a single finger and then later introduce more complex combinations. Use your index finger to: • Flirt with her inner lips; trace the edges with your fingertip. Squeeze and pinch them playfully. Acquaint your index finger with all the diverse parts of her vulva, and take note of her responses. • Gently stimulate her front commissure, the smooth area just above the clitoral head and hood. • Lightly tap her frenulum, the region just below her clitoral head and above her vaginal entrance where her labia minora (inner lips) meet. • Tease her fourchette, the area where the labia majora (outer lips) meet at the base of the vaginal entrance. • Gently tickle the lower base of her vaginal entrance. • As you allow your finger to wander, apply simple, steady tongue strokes. Note how the two work in combination. • Now that you’ve teased her vulva, slowly insert the first two inches or so of your index finger into her vagina. Your finger should go in quite easily (assuming she’s amply aroused and lubricated) and you will likely feel her interior pelvic muscles throb in response and the clitoral cuff tighten around you. • Hold the position straight and still as you continue to apply simple tongue strokes. Don’t rush to insert more fingers. Save them for later. For now, there’s a teasing aspect to the still, single finger and its presence stimulates her pelvic muscles to work: you’re giving her something to reach for that ultimately eludes her...