And Then There's Margaret

by Carolyn Clarke

A dead or dying parent at any age can transform your life and thoughts—it’s that complete loss of childhood and innocence. And it doesn’t matter whether that parent was loved or resented, or whether the relationship was warm or cold. From what I’d learned, losing a parent is life-altering. Suddenly, it can make you feel all grown up. There should be some recognition of parental death as a profound

“insecurity is loud... and it can create a negative result.”

The beauty of this type of relationship is how much you can learn from each other and also how much you can learn about yourself. You might discover this kind of relationship might help you grow, much more than you would have, in say, a relatively normal relationship.