Erotic excitement doesn’t take note of the standards that we’ve defined for ourselves in the rest of our life. It really is a very strange transition we have to make in company with another person: to go from making polite enquiries as to the merits of an entrée or advancing a critique of American electoral politics, to attempting to tie a person up and defile them. We need to be modest about how we can reconcile all aspects of ourselves in the company of one other unique individual.
