Learning to choose myself has not been easy. It has upset a lot of people who have historically benefited from my subservience and lack of self-knowledge. But it’s true what they say: When you say no, you get to say yes. I have let the no fill my mouth like a sacrament, like Job 38:11 (KJV): “Hitherto shalt thou come, but no further.” When the no drops, a gate slamming into the ground, everything that no has made room for becomes clearer. More space. More presence. More love. More mindfulness. Less bullshit.
