‘There’s so much that’s misunderstood about pregnancy loss. The perception that you can just try again makes that little life seem not as important.’ I think about the twelve-week rule, how pregnant women are not supposed to say they are pregnant, for fear of jinxing it, for fear of having to say they are no longer pregnant – how that loss is experienced in isolation, expected to be endured in isolation, how for many there is no symbolism, no coffin, and how fewer than half of the women who experience a miscarriage ever find out why it happened. You were an ecosystem, a world with at least one
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