So, in light of all this, what do you fear the most in setting a boundary? If the fear you just listed above happens, then what? And what could happen next? And then what? And then? Play this all the way out, step by step. What parts of your fears are legitimate? What parts of your fears are being driven by something you feel you must have from this person? If you don’t draw a boundary, what negative effects will this have on you? What negative effects will this have on the relationship? Think through these negative effects on you. If nothing changes, is this relationship sustainable long
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