Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

by Lysa TerKeurst

See if you’ve heard any of these types of statements from others. Assess whether these statements have contributed to you giving up on setting boundaries with certain people. When they say: “What I did isn’t that big of a deal. You’re being so dramatic.” “You are being overly sensitive.” “And you call yourself a Christian?! Jesus wouldn’t treat people this way.” “I thought Christians were supposed to be forgiving.” “You’ve got such a hard heart. Jesus would have never walked away.” “This is just more evidence of you being controlling and unforgiving.” “Jesus loved all people and gave grace no matter what. So, what’s your problem?” “You don’t seem like yourself. You’ve changed.” “I’m so disappointed in you.” “You’re just crazy and this is irrational.” “You’re so selfish. All you care about is yourself.” “Seriously?! How can you be so mean after all I’ve done for you?” “You’re so off base. Drawing boundaries isn’t biblical.” “But you’re my (wife, daughter, best friend, mother, sister). Acting this way toward me is out of order and unacceptable.”