boundary, here’s how you could kindly and confidently respond: Did you know that for every hurt done to us, there is both the fact of what happened and there is also the impact of what those actions cost us emotionally, physically, or financially? Please know, out of obedience to God, I have made the choice to forgive you for the facts of what happened. And, at the same time, I’m trying to understand the impact that all this has had on me. When I am processing what happened, I’m not keeping a record of wrongs to use against you. I’m just working through the impact of the pain to get to
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