when I said that I finally realized I had begun to resent the amount of access I had given my friend? Let’s define what I mean by “access” a little more. It wasn’t that I was resenting my friend or even our friendship. It was that I was resenting what this friendship was doing to me. I had allowed her to have such a prominent place in my heart and mind that her words and actions carried a lot of weight. So much so, that when she was irresponsible with what she said or did it really affected my well-being. This revealed for me personally that I had some codependent tendencies I hadn’t realized.
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