When we are giving most of our energy and efforts each day trying so hard to stay “good” with another person, we stop paying attention to our own well-being. And we run such a risk of becoming the worst version of ourselves: exhausted, depressed, skeptical, distant, insecure, bitter, constantly feeling taken advantage of and manipulated. We can get to such a bad place without even realizing what’s happening. And before we know it, no part of what we are doing for people is motivated by authentic love. It’s actually not about them at all. It’s about us getting from someone what we feel we can’t
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