We don’t want the hurt they’ve caused to make us betray who we really are. We aren’t cruel or mean-spirited so we don’t want to bring any of that into our boundary setting. I also want to have compassion because I don’t have life so figured out that I never act and react in unhealthy ways. I have my own issues that I need to work on and work through with counseling. And certainly learning to have compassion appropriately, while still also having boundaries, continues to be one of my biggest lessons.
