Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

by Lysa TerKeurst

You have put these kinds of boundaries in place because they’re wise, not because you are mean, rude, uncaring, unchristian, selfish, or insensitive. You are a responsible person. You want to be a good steward of what’s been entrusted to you.

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To bottom line it for you, I want to share a quote from Gary Thomas. In his book When to Walk Away, he says, “If someone is getting in the way of you becoming the person God created you to be or frustrating the work God has called you to do, for you that person is toxic.”3

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Posing a boundary as a question opens us up to be questioned, debated, and disrespected. If a boundary is presented with doubt, it won’t be effectively carried out.

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God calls us to obey Him. God does not call us to obey every wish and whim of other people. God calls us to love other people. God does not call us to demand that they love us back and meet every need we have.

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It will seem so senseless when your biological dad doesn’t treasure you or have the desire to protect you as you see your friends’ dads doing for them. You’ve dreamed of having conversations with him where you know he’d do anything for you. Instead, he acts rushed like you might be a bit of an inconvenience to him.

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