Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

by Lysa TerKeurst

Spurgeon goes on to equate this viper to people whose irritation is utterly unreasonable. They don’t have peace on the inside, therefore it probably won’t be possible for them to live with a consistency of peace on the outside. People who cause harm emotionally, physically, socially, sexually, financially, spiritually, intellectually, or relationally, whether they intend to or not, have a toxic impact on those who do life with them. Notice, I didn’t say those who make mistakes and then repent and get help to not make those mistakes again. But when those who inflict harm aren’t horrified by it enough to get help so they don’t do it again, they most likely will do it again. And remember, the greater access we give them, the greater we will feel the impact of their harmful actions and the longer it will take us to recover from it all.

Horrified by it