one-up others’ achievements to prove how great they are, spending money they don’t have, shaming and blaming you, substance abuse, saying mean and cruel things to you or about you, using manipulative tactics to try to stay in control of you, or any other unhealthy choices they make that are negatively impacting your relationship. You have a right to be concerned. Sometimes the problem is that you’re more concerned for them than they are concerned for themselves. And chances are you are very aware of how their actions are affecting you while they are either not aware or not concerned.
