This kind of emotional closeness encourages that each of you grants great access to one another. And that is not a bad thing. However, with such closeness or access, you must understand what each of you needs from the other to continue a mutually healthy and respectful relationship. This is what I’ve been referring to when I say we need someone’s level of responsibility to match their level of access. You get to communicate what makes you feel respected and disrespected; safe and unsafe; healthy and unhealthy. Your definition of this determines what you need from your closest people. For me,
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