In a codependent relationship, there is often more of a focus on the unhealthy person (who, in this scenario, we’ll call “the addict”) than on oneself (who we will call “the codependent”). Enormous amounts of time are spent trying to please or manage the addict and make sure they’re okay. Most people who are in a relationship with an addict have low to no boundaries—all their energy goes to the addict and what they want. The addict will imply things like “I want you to let me do whatever I want. Don’t require anything of me, no boundaries.” Loyalty to the addict supersedes the codependent’s
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