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It’s easy to say that where you are and what you have are dumb, but it’s harder and probably more productive to name concrete things and aspire to them.
And when you’re a trans woman, patriarchal mandates about presentation get extra twisted up with narratives of disclosure, validity as a human being, violence, the possibility of ever being found attractive, and probably a bunch of other stuff you haven’t even identified yet.
I was blaming her for stuff and getting pissed that she was turning into a grownup or whatever but mostly I was just so checked out that I didn’t even understand if I was mad or sad or confused or what, you know?
by making the conversation about the classification of trans women into a conversation about trans women’s sexuality, you’ve already determined that the defining characteristic of trans women is their sexuality.
It’s about framing trans women as men in order to understand deviant male sexuality, without ever looking at female sexuality.
autogynephilia theory just is basically designed to reinforce the idea that trans women are men, and that women don’t have sexualities, and that straight dudes are good people to talk about queer women’s sexualities.
when we’re not allowed to have something we want, we get all fuckin weird about it.