It’s just that once you start using their terms, she says, You’re putting yourself into this restrictive box they made up that doesn’t leave room for figuring out who you are or what you want. It’s a box labeled Dude and Pervert—Bad and Terrible Secret. When in my experience it shouldn’t have to be a secret that if you’re a woman, you might be hot for being a woman when it’s an appropriate time to be hot; when, in fact, if you are a woman—trans or cis—it makes sense to like the idea of being a woman in bed. It’s not a perversion at all. It’s like the opposite of being a pervert. It’s the least
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