Find a place to sit and write, preferably a quiet place. With this exercise, too, you’ll want to keep a handwritten journal. Step 1: Relabel The first step is to call the self-limiting thought what it is: a thought, a belief, not the truth. For example, “I seem to believe that I’m responsible for everyone’s feelings.” Or, “I’m having the thought that I have to be strong.” Or, “I’m acting as if I think I’m only worthy when I’m being helpful.”