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Motherhood meant giving all of herself to Sophie, and Nita didn’t have anything left to give.
We were born into a culture that doesn’t permit independence for any of us. Our roles were decided at birth. Maybe even before that. We could never have changed that.
Dao!
This is so eye opening. A glimpce into another culture and how different things are.
“Everything looks romantic in the moonlight, but the sun always rises the next day.”
Functional, not decorative.
This seems to be the motto of Indian culture, meaning no offence
the roles society expected her to play went far deeper than any single family.
Loss is a universal equalizer. The raw and personal nature of it resonates with everyone.
The direction of the wind cannot be changed, but we can change the direction of our sails.
blend into the new world around her,
It feels like she never really belonged anywhere, always just trying to fit in. Doing what others are instead of what feels right, what the social norms are. On some level I relate to that. Trying to see where you belong, but the only way to do that is to try something new, Nita has done something I could not, adjust, try new things and keep moving forward.
There were so many things she’d never had to think about because they had been a given for her.
she was learning a new form of being trapped and wondered if people were always trapped by something, no matter what they did or where they were.
She had chosen her people in France, and choice made all the difference.
She couldn’t give up her friendship with any of them, and the best way to keep things the same was to ensure they never met.
It’s hard to believe the universe has a plan when everything around her feels random.
people say we French don’t help others,
Book that tests cultural norms and pushes the boundaries of
as if he knew that her body was already his for the taking.
toxiccc
To move so far from who she was that her old life would be closed off to her forever.
family
it seems this story is all about family, what they want for you and somethings you just have to discover yourself
that is a genuine pain. Realizing you are not enough for someone after you have revealed your true self to that person. Such a thing will haunt every fiber of your being for the rest of your life.
you can’t carry that pain through the rest of your life. At some point, we must let it go and realize that even if we had not been enough in the past, there is still a chance to be enough in the future.”
“Everyone’s path is different,” Sophie says. “I can’t change the fact that this is mine.”
restaurant.
The contrast of their experiecnes is so amazing, Sophie started off on the wrong foot but keeps on finding amazing people. Nita found good people at the start but left them and found terrible people and has to go back to her good friends after leaving them
With maths there is a right and wrong answer. No gray area. I like the security and certainty that comes with that.”
A dream without heart is nothing at all.
“Life hardly ever works out,” Cecile says, “but on those rare occasions when it does lead you to the right place, it is a thing of beauty.”
she never had to learn to pick herself up and move forward because she’d never fallen before. As painful as it is to fall, she has never experienced such growth and strength as she has in these last weeks,
all families are dysfunctional in their own way but still find a way to love each other somehow.
