When we assume, without clear evidence, that the only reason someone’s reaching out to us is that they’re bored and lonely, attachment is at play. When we wait for the “shoe to drop” in an otherwise happy friendship, attachment is at play. When we feel an overwhelming but mysterious urge to withdraw, attachment is at play. When we assume others will disappoint us, judge us when we’re vulnerable, or turn us down when we need support, attachment is at play. When we assume friends don’t really like us to begin with, attachment is at play. When we allow people to see only our strong side, our
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