That experience also made me realize that part of practicing healthy vulnerability is also being comfortable with not being vulnerable. Sometimes, I’ve felt like some crisis is consuming me so much that if I don’t share, it’ll make me an imposter—a friend will be able to sniff it out and know I’m lying. But people are apparently really bad at knowing when we’re lying, according to one meta-analysis. You’re free to conceal things from people who you don’t trust.
