In other words, I practiced some of the three V’s around Paula. The three V’s comprise components of healthy and intimate relationships across levels of privilege: vet, vulnerability, and voice. Vetting involves choosing friends who believe in the worth and dignity of the disadvantaged group you identify with; vulnerability involves bringing your full self to the friendship, which includes freely expressing your experiences related to being a member of a disadvantaged group; and voicing involves expressing concerns related to your group as they arise in friendship.
