Anger of hope energizes us, indicating that we need to heal an issue wedged between us to be close again. It is less of an overpowering emotion and more of a signal that something needs to change. It primes us to reflect on what our unmet needs are and how to act to fulfill them. It admits that we care for the other, even while we’re upset, and thus preserves the inherent worth of the other. We don’t punish or blame, but instead reveal our unmet need and ask for change, just like Laura did when she said, “Where was you, Mummy? Where was you?”
